7 Tips to Help Military Families Afford College

The following is a guest post about a topic near and dear to my heart right now, as we embark on the adventure of finding a good-fit university for our oldest son.  The college search and application maze is never simple to navigate, but for military families who move frequently, especially those, like ours, who are living overseas, the process is especially complicated.

Thank you, Sara Furlong for helping to simplify the experience for Military families like ours.

Milspouses are known for making magic happen on a tight budget, but the challenge of paying for college fills most parents with dread. ‘How will we ever afford it?’ is a question that keeps many of us up at night.

But wait! There are lots of actions you can take and opportunities you can seize to make college more affordable. Whether your child is about to embark on college or about to leave the womb, below are a few tips that will help you out. If your children are young, you’ll probably want to read this whole article. If they’re nearing college age, you may want to jump ahead to #3.

1. Get your financial house in order as soon as possible.

If your children are young and time is on your side, now is the time to take care of outstanding credit card debt, save an emergency fund, and set your retirement savings on autopilot. Once your financial situation is tidy, you’ll be in a better position (and mind set) to begin saving for college.

2. Save, save, save!

One of the most important keys to affording college is to get strategic about saving – ASAP! Here are some tips to get you started:
• Be aware of the numbers. A good place to start is to find out how much you’re going to need to save. Once you’ve done that and are totally overwhelmed, you can spend a few minutes freaking out. Okay, now stop. Take a deep breath. Keep in mind that around 75% of students receive financial aid and, as the dependent of a military service member, your child is likely to have access to a number of opportunities that will help make college even more affordable. (More on that later!) There are many ways to tackle the cost of college. So decide on an amount to save that is realistic for your family and a military budget.

• Set up an education savings account like a Coverdell IRA or a 529 account. Contributing faithfully to a plan like these over time will allow you to save a surprising amount, thanks to the magic of compounding interest. Plus, the associated tax benefits allow you to save even more.

• Use salary increases and special pay to further your financial goals. It’s hard to resist the temptation to spend extra money on things you’ve been wanting and needing, but your self-control will pay off. When you get a raise, pretend it never happened and invest the money in your children’s college savings accounts.

• Squirrel away small amounts where you can. Skip the latte or dessert and save that money. A few dollars here and there adds up big time.

3. Take advantage of military education benefits.

Military spouses and children serve their country, too. That’s why there are a number of military education benefits offered to dependents of military veterans and service members.
In addition to federal benefits, check with your child’s schools of interest. They may offer additional funding to military dependents that is not widely known or advertised.

4. Apply for scholarships, financial aid, and other funding help.

Scholarships can take a significant bite out of the cost of college. Some will be based on your child’s past performance in academics and activities, others are available strictly to military dependents.

We suggest you begin your college scholarship treasure hunt by looking at opportunities available for military children. (Scholarships for Military Children)
From there, seek out financial aid, merit-based scholarships, grants, and other forms of tuition help. Military One Source offers a good outline of places to start.

5. Choose a military-friendly school.

If you select a college with support staff and services devoted specifically to helping military students and their families succeed, you will be less likely to miss out on available opportunities that make school more affordable.

Even more important: many of these schools offer reduced tuition rates or grants for veterans, service members, and their spouses and dependents.

For example, Drexel University  extends military tuition discounts of up to 30% off to the children of active duty service members.

Trident University International  is another military-friendly college that offers military education grants that reduce tuition by up to 36% for military spouses and dependents. They also have a Military Assistance Center that can walk you through the process and help you find funding for as much of your college costs as possible – sometimes even 100%!

There are many schools that offer deep tuition discounts to military dependents, so do your homework and shop around.

6. Consider online colleges.

Online college is a great option for students who are military dependents, especially if the family is stationed overseas. By pursuing an online education, the student can stay close to loved ones, take full advantage of their opportunity to live in a foreign country, and still work toward their degree goals.

Another great perk: online schools are often far less expensive. There’s a good chance you’ll pay very little out-of-pocket if you can find a program that suits your needs, has affordable tuition, offers military discounts or grants, and honors military education benefits.

Some great schools that are trusted examples of military friendly online colleges include:

• Trident University International (https://www.trident.edu/military-and-veteran/)
• Pennsylvania State University—World Campus (http://www.worldcampus.psu.edu/military)
• Daytona State College (https://www.daytonastate.edu/online/)
• Martinsburg College (http://martinsburgcollege.edu/)
• Western Kentucky University (https://www.wku.edu/online/military/)
• Central Michigan University (http://global.cmich.edu/military/)
• Drexel University (http://www.drexel.com/military/tuition.aspx)

These schools may be a good place to start when researching your options.

7. Seek out additional perks if your student will be overseas.

If your son or daughter decides to go to a brick-and-mortar American college while the rest of the family is stationed abroad, you’ll encounter some additional challenges. Thankfully, some programs exist to help.

A great example: travel benefits for college students who are military dependents. If your student meets the criteria they will be entitled to a free flight to visit the family each fiscal year. If your family plans to take a trip elsewhere, the student can also meet you at that alternate location, as long as the cost of the flight does not exceed the price of a flight home.
To arrange this, just visit your personnel office to acquire student travel orders. You will also need proof of the student’s full-time enrollment status, and a copy of your PCS orders, which should list your child as a dependent. Once you have all that, you can book the student’s trip through the military travel office.
As you can see, there’s a lot to think about when you’re planning for a child’s college education – especially when you’re living on a military salary and stationed overseas. Hopefully this article has provided you with some good, hopeful jumping-off points that will help you take action and set your child on a solid path to an affordable education.

Have some additional tips or experiences with any of these programs? Post them in the comments!

SaraFurlongSara Furlong is a freelance writer and mom from Upstate NY. She enjoys sharing info that can help other moms stay sane and feel empowered to achieve their goals.

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Patriotic Tipsy Elves

Tipsy Elves burst onto the world stage with their Shark Tank appearance in December of 2013.  I was an immediate fan, but am an even bigger fan now.

Tipsy Elves now has American Flag clothing and they sent us some samples.

Fourteen year old, Dwight wants the entire line of fantastic patriotic clothing.  Tipsy Elves is a giving company and I encourage my readers to visit their site and buy what you like.  You get great clothing and the company gives to people in need.

The clothing is high quality and fun to wear.  We can all benefit from having more elements of fun in our lives, and more American patriotism is always a good thing.  Our military family loves to wear American Flag themed clothing to show our American pride, wherever we go.

So Cool!

So Cool!

 

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Dwight in the American Flag Windbreaker and Socks

Tipsy Elves provided the clothing, but the opinions are my own. I only write about companies I truly like.

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What’s to Love about Diplomatic Life?

A lot.

I admit, I did not want to move overseas.  As I like to say: been there, done that.  I didn’t want to do it again and it wasn’t in the plan.

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So, I spent the first couple of months after our move sulking more often than not.  Making friends, building a social circle, takes work.  I was caught up in getting the kids settled, and as an introvert, I only have so much energy to put myself  “out there.”  So I didn’t.

Mistake.

It took me a few months, but I changed my outlook and forced myself out of my comfort zone.  I realized it was time to focus on the positive aspects of living abroad.  I knew there were many, I’d just blocked them out while feeling a bit sorry for myself.

Maybe, if you are moving abroad and you read this list now, it won’t take you as long to adjust to the culture shock, wherever your feet land.

Here’s what you can look forward to:

1. Making connections with people from countries and cultures you’ve only read about (or not) in books.

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If I’d stayed in my cozy suburban haven, I’d have never met my new friends from Taiwan, Thailand, Singapore, Pakistan, Israel, China, The Philippines, Chile, Belarus, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, France, Holland, England, Denmark, Norway, Korea, Japan and more.  The same goes for the kids.

2. Two words: International Schools.

 

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I was perfectly happy with the great education my kids were getting in Virginia.  I hated to leave the nurturing, highly rated, schools, but nothing compares to a good Independent International School.  Dozens of 3D printers in the school’s art rooms, science labs and more; ipads for each kid in the lower grades, used for reading, math, communication, foreign languages and science; periods of time for reading AND writing each day, including time for exploring all different genres of both, throughout the year, in addition to math, hands on science, and social studies; Mandarin, music, music activities (choir, band or orchestra), art and technology- more than once every week. The music concerts are truly breathtaking at times. High School classes like Forensic Science, Classics, Rhetoric and Composition, IB, AP and more.  I could go on and on.  The resources, dedication of teachers, expectations of students and faculty, not to mention the facilities, are to be savored every day.

3. Sights and Sounds

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These sometimes can be listed as down sides to overseas living, as they can be unfamiliar and sometime foul (stinky tofu and tea eggs, to name two,) but they can also be wonderfully fulfilling.  The colors and sounds and scents of the Buddhist and Taoist temples are sensory masterpieces.   The brilliant reds and golds, the ancient chants and the burning incense, throughout the modern city here, are peaceful reminders of the bigger picture.  Just a few miles from the city, here, you can escape into any one of an endless number of stunning hikes, hot springs and bike trails.  Whatever city you call home can offer delightful bombardments on your senses.

4.  Culture

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Most cities offer a symphony of some sort, a theater with local color, art museums and local craftwork.  Some of these experiences are an acquired taste, some will never appeal to your tastes (I just can’t acquire an appreciation of traditional Chinese Opera, myself,) but you can always find something in which to take pleasure.

 

5. Forming Strong Bonds With New Friends

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In some postings, there is a definite “us and them” line.  When you are posted to a nation whose relations with your own are a bit cold, finding friendly faces among the other diplomats and expats can make life easier and the “us and them” mentality helps new friends grow close quickly.  You meet another person at the pool one day, and a month later you are vacationing in a nearby country with their family.  The friendship timeline is very different when you live in a more foreign expat or diplomatic community.

6. You Can Choose a New Vocation

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When you have to pack up and move your whole life to foreign soil, that often means leaving a career behind.  It can be frustrating, but if you look at it differently, it can be freeing.  Many countries do not permit diplomatic spouses to work outside the embassy.  So, if embassy work isn’t your cup of tea, or coffee, or vodka, or milk tea, or whiskey or whatever… you can choose a new calling.  You can volunteer at an orphanage and hold babies, or play with toddlers a few days per week; you can help out at the school (or hide from the PTA); you can start a blog or write a novel; you can work virtually; or… you can get manicures, pedicures, massages and have lunch with friends.  You are free to make your new life whatever you want it to be.

7. You Can Learn A New Language

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This one never ceases to entertain me.  We’ve lived in Mandarin speaking countries for 4 years now.  I can speak passable conversational Mandarin and I can fake my way to a level far beyond where I actually am; but I am almost completely illiterate.  My character recognition is pathetic.  The great thing about living in a country where you can speak the language, despite the fact that you stick out like a sore thumb as a foreigner, is that locals are usually thrilled to hear even a small attempt at communication in the local language.  Just today I said, “zao,” to two men I passed on the street.  Zao is the short version of the morning greeting here.  The two men greeted me in return and then looked at each other, wide eyed, and turned back to me, proceeding to profusely compliment me on my ability to speak Mandarin.  I said, literally, one syllable.  That’s all it took.  Moments like these are truly diplomatic victories.  Making the effort shows the host nation you care.  I do care.  I might not be thrilled about the circumstances every moment, but I do care about building metaphoric bridges with my hosts.

8. Depending on Where You Live, You Can Hire Affordable “Staff”

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A not so well kept secret among diplomats and expats is that when you are sent to a less developed country, often, you can afford to hire people to help with your daily life.  Sometimes that means someone to clean your house once per week, and sometimes that means you can hire full time, live-in help (a nanny if you have little kids); a driver; a cook; and a gardener.  We’ve run the gamut, we’ve most often had no help at all, but we’ve also had live-in, 40 hours per week, help.  Having someone else do your laundry, clean, cook and organize your house takes less getting used to than you might think.   I love the help and I enjoy giving someone a job.  The wages are always along legal lines and we always pay more than what is expected.  I truly enjoy every moment of having help;  I keep in mind that it’s a fleeting experience.  As soon as we move back to the US, it’s back to mopping my own floors, mowing my own lawn and making every meal, and I’m ok with that.

Despite all of the great things about living abroad, and all the perks of being a diplomat, in the end of the day, I long to be back in my home country, in the house we own, near(er) to family and long time friends.

So, perspective is key to this lifestyle.  Home is where the Navy sends us and I intend to make the most of wherever that may be.  I encourage you to do the same.

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ThankList- Whom Do You Want To Thank?

Who made an impact on your life?  A teacher, a coach, a grandparent, a parent?

As Father’s Day approaches, former United States Marine, and cancer survivor, Ron Prince chose to thank his father – who is also a former U.S. Marine – for being his hero in a special way.

Thanks to American Greetings, Ron participated in a documentary series directed by two-time OSCAR® winning filmmaker, Barbara Kopple, called  The ThankList.

A remedy for a rude world, The ThankList encourages thankfulness towards those who helped shape our lives.  Watch Ron’s emotional thank you:

On Father’s Day, a ‘thank you’ is the greatest gift you can give your Dad—near or far. American Greetings wants to remind everyone to thank Dad in a memorable way.

You, too, can thank your Dad, or another hero in your life, here.

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Deployment Chart For Families

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This is a guest post about a deployment chart, from The Victoria Chart Company.

They are offering 25% OFF this chart this month, please follow the link at the bottom of this page http://bit.ly/1PEE2eR and enter ‘MILITA25′ at checkout.  

“At The Victoria Chart Company, our expertize lies in knowing what children react positively to, what they find comfort in and what brings families together.  Modern day family life is a challenging one and with it comes all sorts of issues such as divorce, absent family member, pressures at school, moving home, medical problems, general child development to name but a few.   It is for this reason for the last 11 years we have listened to family needs and developed dedicated, award winning charts to provide children and their families with a focal point to work from in the home.

Our most recent chart launched is our ‘Stay Positive During Deployment’ chart which was originally commissioned by United Kingdom’s Royal Air Force to support their children during a family members deployment.  It is testament to the success of this chart that the RAF have ordered it time and time again and following interest and requests from US military families, we are delighted to now offer an exclusive US version.  Please take a look here: http://bit.ly/1PEE2eR

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Applying to College From Abroad, With Special Needs, Taking a Gap Year

Could it be more complicated?  Probably.

Am I grateful that we are able send our willing eldest child to college?  Of course.

Am I 100% overwhelmed?  You bet.

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I hardly know where to start.  Zack needs to take the SAT and ACT tests in the fall, so I thought I’d start by getting him registered for those.  It’s an easy step.  Choose the dates, register and pay…  I’d get to cross that off of my To Do List and put the rest aside for a little bit, while feeling as if I’d accomplished something important.  Except the 2015-16 dates aren’t posted yet.

I closed the College Board tab on my computer and moved on to another step:  researching programs in the country of our next posting.  Nothing about the process is clear.  Will he be in a study abroad situation?  Will he apply to the international campus directly or to the US campus?  Do the international campuses offer any of the same courses of study as the US campuses?  The thought of my child 1000s of miles away from the rest of the family is almost too overwhelming to bear at the moment.

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We want to find a school that offers some special service for students on the Autism Spectrum.  So, I started researching those.  I realize, though, that first we need to get Zack to decide what he wants to focus on and find a school that offers that course of study, in addition to some back up options, should he change his mind.  Ideally, we find this university actually has a campus where we’ll be posted and he can do two years there with us, then transfer to the US campus.  Is that too much to ask?

SATs, ACTs, SAT subject tests, Study Abroad, Gap Year, Special Programs…

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Xanax!

Thank you.

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Be Safe At Home During Deployment and Always

June is National Safety Month!

As Military spouses, we have unique home safety concerns, since our service member is out of the home for an extended period of time. There are some very helpful safety products available in the webiverse.  Some of which are especially ideal for military families because they can move with us from home to home, all over the world.  Home is where the Navy sends us, but some of those places are not the safest.

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Horatio deployed for long periods many times, most recently, for 21 months.  The boys and I were on our own… in a safe suburban neighborhood, and we had a home alarm system.  Nothing about the situation was inherently dangerous, but I still worried for our safety on a regular basis.  I thought about getting some personal safety items to keep at home and in my handbag, but I never knew what was best or where to get it.

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It turns out, SABRE, the Security Equipment Corporation, provides a variety of devices to keep you and your home safe.  SABRE is a family owned and operated company with over 40 years of experience keeping people safe.  SABRE is the number one company with law enforcement in 40 countries on six continents.

What I needed was devices to make me feel safe, and protect me if and when I needed them.  One of the times I feel most vulnerable is walking from buildings to my car, alone, at night.  SABRE’s personal alarm goes a long way to allay my fears and make me feel as I would able to get away, at a moment’s notice, if something were to happen to me, or I felt threatened.

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  • 110 dB alarm – calls for attention to help scare off attackers
  • Discreet – looks like a memory stick
  • Sleekest, most modern personal alarm design
  • User-friendly – simply remove pin from keychain to sound alarm
  • Dual siren design
  • Red version supports the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network
  • Ready at a moment’s notice thanks to key ring attaching to bag, backpack, keychain, purse, etc.
  • Requires 4xLR44 batteries (included

I also really like the door stop alarm.  I feel like it adds a real layer of protection at home, and I can take it with me whenever I travel.  One of my boys really worries whenever Horatio is away and I have to go out at night.  Having this alarm will help him worry less, I am sure.  I always feel a bit uneasy in hotels, so the door stop alarm is perfect for peace of mind.  We will be traveling this summer and even though Horatio will be with us, I plan to take the door stop alarm along for an extra measure of safety.  We will have two hotel rooms, so I’ll feel safer knowing the boys in the other room have this alarm at their door.

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  • Door Stop Alarm
    • Perfect for bedrooms, dorm rooms, apartments and hotels
    • Triple purpose: wakes you, alerts others and prevents door from opening with a non-skid pad
    • Useful in various applications – ideal for bedrooms, hotels, apartments & dorm rooms
    • Lets you know when battery is running low with indicator
    • Includes on/off switch
    • Requires 1x9V battery (not included)

Another great product by SABRE, is their Wireless Alarm Kit.

HS-WAKHS-WAK-OOPThe SABRE Wireless Alarm Kit:

  • Extremely loud – 120 dB keypad alarm
  • Includes three additional door/window alarms
  • User-friendly – entry delay prevents false triggering
  • Easy installation – set up in minutes, no wiring necessary
  • Keypad door/window alarm requires 3xAAA batteries (not included)
  • Window alarms require 3xLR44 batteries (included)

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It is super easy to install and can really help secure your home, whether your spouse is deployed, traveling, or home. You can set it to chime when a window or door is opened, or arm it to sound an alarm when a door or window is opened.  As a parent of teenagers, I like the chime feature.  I want to be sure that my kids cannot come and go without me knowing about it.

The bottom line is that safety is key to peace of mind.  Whether on the go, or at home;  solo, or when everyone is home; SABRE’s products can help you stay safe.

With all the snakes around here, not to mention the monkeys and stray dogs, I also plan to get the Duathlete Pepper Spray.  It comes with an adjustable bicep band strap so I can keep it with me and run, hands free.

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Top Five Reasons to Carry Pepper Spray

  1. Protection at a safe distance – why go hands on?
  2. Very practical – protection against multiple threats
  3. Legal to carry in all 50 states
  4. Doesn’t require size or strength to use
  5. Proven effective – police worldwide carry pepper spray

I carried pepper spray in my hand bag when I first lived on my own.  With Horatio traveling a lot right now, National Safety Month made me realize I should start doing that again.  I really like the lipstick pepper spray from SABRE because it blends in with other things in my bag.

ls-22-usNational Safety Month is a good time to make sure you and your loved ones are doing everything possible to stay safe.

I’d like to thank SABRE for their support of this blog and for the products they will provide me.  The opinions expressed in this post are my own.

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Parenting Fails Happen

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I enjoyed the Grade 5 Recognition Ceremony at the boys’ school last night.  Watching Bob celebrate the transition from the Lower School to Middle School filled me with joy and just a little bit of sorrow.  I am not a fan of 6th graders going into middle school, but that is where we find ourselves now, so I have no choice but to roll with it.  Bob is ok with it, now that the school has thoroughly prepared the class for the move, and the administration goes a long way to keep the 6th graders mostly isolated from the bigger kids, thankfully.

Meanwhile, back at home, Dwight was in charge of helping Harold take a bath and get ready for bed.  I rotate between which older boy I leave in charge of Harold when I’m out, and while they might not be thrilled about it, it usually goes pretty well.  Last night, not so much, and Harold was up way past his bedtime, leading to a more challenging than usual wake-up this morning.

Harold proclaimed that he could not go to school because he had a sore throat and also felt very tired.  He insisted that he didn’t feel well and could not possibly go to school, despite the fact that he would miss swimming.  He felt a little warm, so, I relented.  I said he could stay home, with certain parameters: No internet, no video games, etc.

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Two hours later, Harold seemed better, so I asked him how he was feeling.  He said, “My throat is ok, but it might get bad again and besides, there’s a big test today, so I’ll still stay home.”

Wait.. What?  Hand hits forehead.

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First of all… a big test… in first grade?

“Harold, what kind of test?”

“Mandarin.”

“You know, you’ll have to take the test on Monday.”

“Maybe.  But maybe not.”

Hmmm.  I’m pretty sure this was a parenting fail.  I probably should have made him get dressed and driven him to school, but I didn’t.

There. I said it.

Sure, it wasn’t my finest parenting moment, but I’m ok with him staying home.  He’s seven years old.  He has LOTS of big tests ahead of him; especially at the international schools he’s on track to attend.  Missing one is not going to make or break him.  Sometimes a kid needs a day off when he’s tired.

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Sometimes adults do too.

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To Red Shirt, Or Not to Red Shirt

That is the question for parents of 4 year olds everywhere at this time of year.

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Our kids have attended kindergarten in 3 different schools, in two states and two countries.  They’ve attended five elementary schools, two middle schools and two high schools.  Zack is the only one whose entry into kindergarten ever came into question.  His birthday is in July.  He started preschool when he had just turned 2, was reading at age 3 and had a photographic memory.  His preschool teacher said he was ready for kindergarten.  Before we moved to Kansas, where he eventually started school, we lived in Missouri, where children must turn 5 by August 1 in order to enter kindergarten.  We were staying at my parents’ house at the time, because Horatio was deployed and the boys were so young.  The school district, where they live, screens children for kindergarten entry.  Despite the fact that we would not be living there when Zack entered kindergarten, we let them screen him.  He was my first kid.  I was curious, and a little sure of myself his abilities.

I’ll never forget it.  The educator took wee Zack to a classroom at the local elementary school, while I waited in another room.  When she brought him back, he played while she went over the results with me.  She raved about how well he could sit and listen and follow directions.  She commended his reading skills and gushed over his math abilities; and then she said, and this is an actual quote, “so, you should probably hold him back.”

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Wait… What?  I was more than a little stunned.

So, I asked her why.  She said it was because he had a late July birthday.  Full stop.  I thanked her for her advice, and Zack and I left the building.

He started kindergarten that August, at Dwight D Eisenhower Elementary School, in Leavenworth, Kansas, and I could see, pretty early on, that perhaps she was right.  The issues were never glaring enough to warrant holding him back after that year, but I could see the logic.  He was definitely less mature and smaller than the other kids.

Young Harold attended kindergarten in Fairfax County.  His birthday is in December and I could see a clear difference between him and the “just turned 5s.”  He stood out as a model in the class and thrived.

As Dwight, now in grade 8, progresses through school, some of the younger kids in the grade are still clearly identifiable by their lack of maturity.  The older kids in the grade steer away from those kids in many cases.  They get annoyed by the immature behaviors.

I am a strong advocate of sending kids to kindergarten at the age appropriate time.  Trying to get a waiver to bypass the deadline and send a kid early might not have a detrimental effect on you child, but why risk it?  Yes, I know, preschool is expensive, but so is therapy when the kid is suffering from confidence issues or is the target of bullying, later.  When in doubt, err on the side of caution and wait.  Really.

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I speak to this issue from so many sides, that I feel I can offer sound advice.  As the parent of four kids, born at 3 different times of the year; as a teacher, who has taught nearly every grade from Kindergarten through 12; and as an Autism parent.

If you are wondering what to do with your child who will turn 5 in September or August, I urge you: talk to the child’s teacher, talk to the child’s doctor, watch your child interact with other kids, and then make an informed decision.  If there is even the slightest bit of uncertainty in your mind, spring for the extra year of preschool, or send him/her to a different kindergarten program before sending him/her to the school that will be a more long-term setting.  Give your kid the advantage from the get-go.  I’ve never heard a parent say the regret waiting to send their child to kindergarten, but I’ve listened to many parents speak of wishing they had waited.

Think long term.  It’s over in a flash.  Let your kid shine!

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Spartan Race Discount and Giveaway

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Here’s a great deal for all you Spartan Racers!

Until May 27, use the code: MEMORIAL for up to $40 off  for any open heat (non-confirmed start time) in any Spartan Race in the continental US.

Memorial-Day 2

I also have a code for a free race entry! Enter starting at midnight tonight:  giveaway

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