GREATER and HILLSONG – LET HOPE RISE dvds and Target Giftcard Giveaway

In August, I introduced the release of the inspirational movie, GREATER.  December 20, GREATER will be released on dvd as will HILLSONG – LET HOPE RISE.  These are both wonderful tales of true faith.  HILLSONG – LET HOPE RISE was a phenomenon when it came out in theaters this past September and its makers want to continue the intense feelings and movement with everyone this holiday season.

The holiday season carries different meanings for individuals.  To me, though, no matter what holiday we celebrate at this time of year, the important message is faith in something greater and more powerful than anything else.  A united, grounded, faith brings the world together for good.  In this tumultuous time in the world, faith and love are more important than ever.  When I see Nativity Scenes at some houses, Hanukkiahs at others and hear family stories of true faith from all walks of life, I envision that the differences do not divide us, the commonality of our faith unites us.  If we spread this message, we might see an improvement in our peaceful coexistence.  I believe we can take the emotions of this season and make our world better.

For some inspiration in your home, enter my giveaway of the 2 dvds and a Target giftcard.  Comment below and tell me what the season means to you and how we can keep the world from falling apart at the seams.

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Conquering the Challenges of Military Life- Giveaway!

This is a post in collaboration with SimpliSafe

Some of the hardest parts about being in a military family are the expected, day-to-day challenges. There can also be such a level of uncertainty that military families face too. There are PCS moves, saying goodbye to your friends and family, parenting hardships, or even wondering whether you’ll be able to acclimate yourself to a new city or country. Aside from this though, there are things that military families can do in order to make the day-to-day a little easier. Here are a few tips:

Don’t be afraid to ask for help

It can be hard to do it alone sometimes, even more so for those with loved ones away or overseas. There’s no shame in asking for help, especially for families who are new to military life. One such place to go for help is Military OneSource. This site provides information on everything from counseling and family relationships, to education and on/off base living. There are also organizations who provide support for the children of military families. The Jackson in Action 83 Foundation, for example, focuses on the mental and physical health of children. They also hold an annual baby shower for military moms providing huge gift baskets to expecting military families. Get yourself involved in the community, network with other families, and be sure to keep an eye out for any and all resources available to you.

Give yourself peace of mind

Military families know the challenges that each other face, but it’s less often that outsiders have an idea. Luckily, there are companies who are getting involved and working alongside military families to provide some solutions. SimpliSafe, which is a home security company, has done a lot to understand military family life. They feel as though military families already have a laundry list of things to think and worry about, their own safety and security shouldn’t be one of them. This month, they’re even rewarding 50 families with one of their wireless security systems through their Military Family Giveaway. The systems are perfect for military families because unlike other ones that are wired into a home, you can take their wireless system with you if you ever have to relocate. If you have a military family you’d like to nominate to win one, head to this page here by November 21st.

Stay busy

Picking up a hobby or getting involved is the best way to stay positive during tough times and acclimate yourself to the military community. If you’re not close to family, this is a great way to make friends and find others to talk to who are going through the same things as you. Either way, spending time with friends and family is a great way to feel close to others, even when your loved ones are away. In your downtime, you could also consider taking up a program of study. The additional work will keep you busy, and it’s never a bad idea to continue/add on to your education. There are even several scholarships and grants specifically for military spouses.

Whatever you decide to do, know that you’re not alone in the challenges of military life. There are multiple online resources, companies and organizations, even individuals like yourself you are there to help.


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Our President Elect, Let’s Deal With It

It’s going to be ok.

If you are feeling overwhelmed, try some kindergarten calming soup breathing… Smell the soup, blow on the soup, smell the soup, blow on the soup, in-out, in-out.  Now, let’s get on with it.

If you were with Her, you are surely frustrated, to say the least.  She appeared to be a shoo-in; she even earned the majority of the popular vote; but he earned the majority of the electoral college vote, so now our great nation moves on in an unexpected direction which surprised the majority of the country.  After we get over the surprise, for good or bad, it’s time to pull up our big girl and boy pants and march forward.  It’s like the preschool saying goes, “You get what you get and you don’t get upset.”  This is our situation and no matter who you supported, you will have Donald Trump as your president beginning at noon on January 20, so buck up and put one foot in front of the other and do your part to better our nation.

Overthinking the shoulda, coulda, wouldas helps no one.  Dwelling on the disappointment, if that is your point of view, does no good.  It’s time to move on and focus on the good that might come of this drastic change in our government.

First, keep in mind that while Donald Trump said a lot of  nasty, bigoted, confusing, and contradictory things over the past 18 months, if one looks back to where he stood before he was running for office and trying to make waves, it is clear that his real views are quite moderate.  Many of our past presidents, both Republican and Democrat, were bigots, anti-Semites, sexist, philanderers.  So, now we have another one at the helm, but I hope these terrible traits will not play into his leadership.

Donald Trump might help Veterans; be more reluctant to send troops to solve problems that might be better suited to diplomatic tactics; further the U.S. toward a kinder, gentler environment for the LGBTQA community; create a better health care system, and redirect the negative path we’ve veered toward in recent years.  Let’s face it.  If Hilary Clinton had been elected, the country would have remained divided and partisan lines would likely have grown stronger than ever.  While Donald Trump is a massive unknown entity in American politics, and many people fear what loose cannon actions he might take, perhaps he will take us in an unexpectedly positive direction.  Perhaps, after what is sure to be a chaotic transition, with unpredictable highs and lows, he will help to unite the country.

I choose to hope for the best.  My family depends on having a good leader as much as any other family in our country.  Donald Trump will soon be Commander-in-Chief and, therefore, Horatio’s boss.  I have no choice but to be optimistic and look ahead to living in and working for an America that is better than ever.  Let’s unite as a people and work together to make it so.  It’s time to put the arduous, nasty, long election behind us and move on to make our future what we want it to be… with a strong America, leading the world in every way.

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A Fish Out Of Water

In early September, Horatio, Harold and I ventured to the nearby Bei Dong outdoor goods Market, where we bought some house plants and took the plunge to buy a saltwater fish tank. I’ve always coveted reef tanks, and as they are more affordable here, than in the US, we seized the opportunity to fulfill my small dream. Before we made the purchase, we asked several vendors, multiple ways, if keeping saltwater fish is difficult and were told, “no,” by each one. Of course the conversations were in Chinese, so some aspects might have gotten lost.  As this is China, we were able to arrange for the shop keeper to come to our house to assemble and set up the aquarium for us two days later.

Placing the rocks and coral.

Placing the rocks and coral.

Adding Water

Adding Water

Of course, each and every one of the sea life vendors misled us. Keeping a saltwater tank up and running is challenging, but it is worth the effort– if the fish live through the learning process.  In addition to regular feedings, maintenance requires adding water every few days in order to maintain the correct salinity level, as well as cleaning the protein separator every other day so that the tank remains clean.  One also must add liquid coral food to the water every three weeks, and turn off the protein separator for four days immediately following the coral feedings.

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We had some fish deaths, early on, but got through that phase and the tank thrived. I began to research reef life and decided to get a starfish, both for its beauty, as well as its ability to help to maintain the health of the aquarium.


When I went to see my “fish guy,” he told me that I should get a heater for the water, as the outside temperature in Beijing is steadily dropping. I asked him to come back to my house to set up the heater and to check the salinity levels of the water. Two days later, he came back to my house and did just that.  He explained to our helpful ayi, Xiao Lü and to me, what he was doing and why, and she translated, into more simple Chinese, the fish care lingo for me.  It was a scene to behold: two people speaking to me in Chinese, one trying to translate, for me, what the other was saying, but in the same, foreign, language.

In the process of checking the tank and adding salt, unbeknownst to me, the fish guy slightly unplugged the oxygenator. Slightly, though, is the same as completely, when it comes to plugs, and for about 18 hours, the water was not being circulated. By morning, two of the remaining fish had died and by the next day, our hardy clown fish had also died. All that remained is the starfish and the large coral.


I sent a message to my fish guy and told him what happened. At first, he denied having unplugged the essential piece of equipment. I turned my phone over to Xiao Lü, though, and had her explain, in detail, the accidental unplugging. She was very stern in her wording.  She was as upset as I was about the fish deaths.  Eventually, he accepted responsibility. I took some accountability, since I didn’t notice the mistake, and had Xiao Lü tell the fish guy that I want four new fish and will pay for just two. He agreed to the deal. (Horatio is pretty sure I’ll just end up paying double for the two fish I pay for, but, ever the optimist, I don’t think that will happen.)

Now, I am awaiting arrival of new fish. I’ve given the tank more than two weeks to adjust to the new temperature and salinity and am hopeful that I can get the habitat up and running again so we can enjoy its beauty.

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IGNITE Opportunities For Military Connected Women

Women Vet/Milspo Entrepreneurship Will IGNITE this November 18th in Savannah
Learn, Network & Meet These Successful Women Veteran Entrepreneurs!
By Sarah O’Connell


Kristina Guerrero could hear her heart pumping as the doors opened to the Shark Tank conference room on ABC’s popular TV show “Shark Tank.” The show’s five sharks, all well-known and accomplished entrepreneurs and business leaders, waited to critique her business. Kristina was nervous, but was ready to pitch her startup venture, TurboPUP – which makes complete K9 Meal Bars – on national TV. Luckily, her time flying C-130 TurboPROPS in the Air Force prepared her to stay calm under pressure and believe in herself. Also, she had attended the Institute for Veterans and Military Families’ (IVMF) Veteran Women Igniting the Spirit of Entrepreneurship (V-WISE) program in 2012, where a conference speaker taught her the most essential skill for Shark Tank – how to pitch. After making a deal on the show with Shark Daymond John, Kristina was able to grow and showcase her business to a national audience. To this day, however, if you ask Kristina how pitching to Shark Tank felt, she will respond with one simple word: “terrifying!”

  1. What do you think was most important when growing TurboPUP into what it is today?
  2. Taking it one step at a time. In the Air Force we used to say ‘Flexibility is the key to air power.’ I think it’s that way with entrepreneurship.” –Kristina ignitephoto1_turbopup

Two years after Kristina attended V-WISE in 2012, a US Navy veteran with a “standard of excellence” attended V-WISE New York City 2014. Connie Gorum is the CEO of the CL Russell Group, a learning and development consulting company that partners with organizations to help them achieve high performance. “I knew working as an employee would only limit my creative abilities and growth potential,” says Connie when asked why she wanted to start her own business. She admits being an entrepreneur is not always easy, but that she enjoys inspiring others in the women veteran and veteran community.

  1. What is your favorite part about being an entrepreneur?
  2. “The freedom to explore new possibilities, inspiring others, and know my only limitations in life are the ones I set for myself” –Connie

“Entrepreneur” is only one way to describe Kaylenne (Kay) Brown. She is also an activist, health enthusiast, vegan chef, personal trainer, hip hoppa, choreographer, and USMC veteran. Her business, Sweat N Swag Fitness, a transformation coaching business, offers fitness training and nutrition coaching that helps clients get their “swag” back. Prior to owning her own venture, Kay spent over twelve years in the Marine Corps learning how to perfect her organization and leadership skills while working with various personality types. After learning how to market her business at V-WISE New Orleans in 2015, Kay won the MSNBC “Grow Your Value/Know Your Value” competition where she received $10,000 to build her business and brand.

  1. What does the “Grow Your Value/Know Your Value” competition mean to you?

A.” It was a life changing experience. I really honed in on what my value was a woman and entrepreneur. This experience from the program really catapulted my business.” –Kay

In just a few weeks on November 18th, 100 more women veterans, active duty service women, and military spouses/partners will get the tools to create their own success stories as they explore the opportunity of small business ownership during IGNITE, presented by the Institute for Veterans and Military Families (IVMF) at Syracuse University and Veteran Women Igniting the Spirit of Entrepreneurship (V-WISE).

Over the course of this day-long entrepreneurship training event, participants will be exposed to a robust team of nationally acclaimed speakers, expert instructors, and military friendly business resource providers. During an exciting day of learning, networking and growing, program participants will get the once in a lifetime opportunity to sit down for a Fireside Chat with Kristina, Kay and Connie – three fellow women veterans who have found success as entrepreneurs.

Now leaders in their chosen fields Kristina, Kay, and Connie all started out with just an idea and a strong desire to achieve their goals. While all three women experienced their journey to business ownership in different ways, they can all agree on one thing: they could not be more excited to inspire and be inspired at IGNITE.

WHAT: IGNITE – Aspiring Women Veteran and Military Spouse Entrepreneurs, presented by IVMF and V-WISE

WHEN: Friday, November 18th, 2016, 8:00 AM-6:30 PM

WHERE: The Hyatt Regency Savannah – 2 W Bay St., Savannah, GA 31401

REGISTRATION SITE: (Use code BLOGPOST for $10 off registration fee!)



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All In A Day’s Work in the Expat World

Last night, before bedtime, I realized I’d be at the school all day the next day and had to plan for dinner.  In this odd life, that has a different meaning than it did when I was teaching back in the US.  Two plus years ago, I’d put something in the crock pot or plan something simple or get take out.  In this diplomat life abroad, though, I am fortunate that we can afford to have household help.  So, all I have to do, usually, in this situation, is decide what we want to have for dinner and our ayi, Xiao Lü, will have it ready by the time she leaves our house at 5:30.

The boys are tired of chicken, pasta doesn’t keep well, and we really don’t trust any other meat here in China, as we are unsure of its safety.  So, after thinking about it and talking with Horatio and the boys, we decided on my beloved friend, Martha’s, Cuban bean recipe.  We all love it, but it’s a bit of a procedure to make it, so I knew it would take some effort to prepare the kitchen and explain the process to Xiao Lü.

The first thing I did was edit the recipe to increase the chances of accuracy when I copied into google translate.  After I translated the recipe, I printed it out in English and Chinese.  She does not speak or read English, but since I cannot check the Chinese translation for exact accuracy, providing the English copy allows the opportunity for her, if she has any questions, to can take it to our clubhouse to ask for help from one of the bilingual reception workers there.

I set out the recipe on the kitchen counter, with the spices and the correct measuring spoons.


Next, I took out the food processor and plugged it into the transformer.  China uses 220  power, while the US uses 110.  Plugging the American appliance into the wall here would fry the expensive piece of equipment.  I figure it’s better to be especially prepared, and safe, than sorry.

Then, since I’ve never shown Xiao Lü how to use the food processor, I took a video of the process and sent it to her on We Chat, (the texting app EVERYONE here uses.)  I also sent her the recipe and shopping list, so that she could go to the market on her way to my house in the morning.  We Chat has a translation function, so I can type in English and she can translate on her end.  I can do the same when she responds to me in Chinese.  I always word my texts to her very carefully, in hopes that the translation will be clear.  I never really know, though.


Something is often lost in the translation, but the gist is clear.

I’ve done everything I can to ensure that the process is smooth.  I never really know what to expect, though, and I’m generally not surprised when things don’t go according to plan.  I hope for the best, but prepare for less than that, to minimize the disappointment.

This evening, hopefully, I will arrive home from school to the aroma of Cuban Black Beans, and we can sit down to family dinner together and enjoy the meal.

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Help Other Military Families and Earn Amazon Gift Cards

I want to share the news about the great support website for military families:  The site has been redesigned to really help families like ours, and you can earn Amazon gift cards by adding your own information to the site!

The aim of is to help military families BEFORE, DURING, and AFTER a PCS.

  • Before you get orders, research where to live by reading neighborhood reviews, school ratings, and military housing reviews.
  • During the PCS, find and contact a Military Friendly RELTOR and search for homes.
  • After you PCS, find new restaurants, fun things to do and great local businesses, that would otherwise take months, if not years, to discover.

Not only can you use the site to get helpful information during a move, but you can earn Amazon Gift Cards by helping others!

Whether you live in Kentucky or Korea, Georgia or Germany, there are military families who want the information you have, so take a few minutes to post a review and start earning points!

This is how it works:

Write a review and earn points. Once you earn enough points, you earn an Amazon gift card. You can spend that gift card however you would like!

How to earn points:

  • Neighborhood Review is worth 3 points
  • Apartment Review is worth 3 points
  • Condo/Townhome Review is worth 3 points
  • Area of Town Review is worth 3 points
  • Military Housing Review is worth 3 points
  • School Review is worth 1 point
  • Local Business Review is worth 1 point
  • Thing To Do Review is worth 1 point

How to earn Amazon gift cards:

  • 25 points = $10 Amazon gift card
  • 30 points = $15 Amazon gift card
  • 40 points = $25 Amazon gift card
  • 60 points = $50 Amazon gift card
Don’t wait!  There are families settling in to new military towns right now, and they need your help.
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An Unlikely Champion – Target Giftcard Giveaway

Disney’s QUEEN OF KATWE is based on the inspiring true story of Robert Katende and Phiona Mutesi. Phiona was a young girl living in the slums of Katwe, Uganda. One day, she stumbled upon Katende and a group of children playing chess in a makeshift church. Through the guidance of Katende and the game of chess, Phiona was encouraged to believe in herself. Eventually, she found herself not only competing in local chess matches, but winning in international competitions. Robert and Phiona’s story celebrates the notion that champions can come from the most unlikely places.

Champions are often hard to find, but I don’t have to look far for one in my life.  My cousin, Loren, is a champion for disadvantaged children.  When her life took a turn and she found herself single and teaching at an alternative school, she decided to become a foster parent.  She took the necessary classes and began to mentally prepare herself to take in a child who needed love.  Before she knew it, the State asked her to care for an 18 month old boy who needed to be removed from an unsafe setting.  Loren formally adopted J.B. as soon as she could and she was on the road to supermomdom.  Over the past 17 years, Loren has taken in, and adopted, 12 children, all of whom have overcome battles of their own (Read about one here).  Loren’s eldest child is 20 years old, and the youngest is still a baby.  She devotes all of her time to caring for these children and she does it with grace and patience.

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Loren and some of her children

When I begin to feel busy and overwhelmed in my life with four kids, I often think of Loren and wonder how she does it, day in and day out.  When I see her in action, as a strong, single mom of so many kids, who all know she adores them, I am in awe.  She is definitely a champion for her kids and a role model for moms everywhere.

In honor of the September 30, nationwide release of QUEEN OF KATWE, I have two $25 Target giftcards to give away.  I’m going to send one to Loren and you can enter to win the other one by commenting on this post.  Tell me about an unlikely champion in your life. You can earn a second entry by “Liking” Deployment Diatribes on Facebook and leaving a comment on the link to this post.

I will select a winner for the Target Giftcard on Wednesday, October 5.

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Get childish Glow in the dark stars – Product Review

Another way to make a house a home is to make the kids’ bedrooms more fun and welcoming.


I received  Glow in the Dark Stars in the mail last week and put them up after my kids went to school one day. They were so surprised and happy when the lights went out that night, and the stars and planets glowed in the dark.


The sticky putty made it super easy to put up the stars in any design I chose and because they came with a guide book, I was able to make legit constellations, which my science minded 3rd and 7th grader love! Because the kit comes with the sticky putty, the stars will be easy to remove when we move to a new house, so for a military family, they are perfect.  The putty doesn’t leave a mark when it is removed from the wall or ceiling.  I can tell they will provide enjoyment for the next years in this house, and the kids can rearrange them as they please, because the putty makes the process simple.



I received my Glow in the Dark Stars for free through Tomoson Promotions in exchange for my honest review.


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On the Road- For Real

I drove to the US Embassy today.  Young Harold needed his final rabies vaccine, so I had to take him to the embassy health unit.  That might not sound like much to write about, but for a foreigner like me, driving in the center of Beijing is more than a little intimidating.  Even though we lived here for before, for three years, I have never driven downtown.  In fact, I was so intimidated by the crazy driving in Beijing, I hired a driver from 2006-09.  Now, though, the cost of a diver is prohibitively higher, and today I found myself on the road with 1000s of other drivers, making my way through the crazy roads and busy expressway.  I borrowed a friend’s GPS, so I felt less than completely panicked about finding the embassy itself.  I remained pretty worried about finding the right entrance, and getting into the well guarded gates, though.

Thanks to the GPS, and guidance from Horatio and several friends, I made it with barely a bump along the way.

Before I left our house, I told Xiao Lu that I was a bit scared because it was my first time driving the car to the embassy.  She reassured me, told me to not be nervous (at least that’s what I think she said,) and implored me to go “slow.”  She said it in Mandarin AND English.  The only other word I ever heard her say in English is the command, “sit,” to Westley, the Three Legged Wonder Dog.  So, I figured it must be important advice.  She was right.  By driving slowly, I could watch my surroundings and drive defensively against all the chaos around me.


I feel as if I’ve conquered another fear, and while I remain cautious, I’m ready to get out there again and get myself wherever I need to go.  I just hope I don’t ever get stuck in one of the infamous Chinese traffic jams like this one:

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